Is it worth it? Just how often do so many of us ask
ourselves this question on a variety of issues. And usually we try to tell
ourselves that end of the day, all things considered, what we are assessing is
worth it. I am beginning to think that this happens only because we want what
we are assessing and are just trying to get our rational mind to give the great
“OK”. Its how the trained logical mind buys itself peace.
Life isn’t perfect – in fact far from it. Usually, what we
want comes attached with a lot of things we don’t want. Sometimes, it comes
attached with insufficient amount of some things we want and extra amounts of
what we didn’t ask for. And that’s where the whole worth assessment begins.
You like your job but don’t love it. You like your boss but
he is often a pain. The current project is horrendous and you are stuck on it
for a year. End of the day is it worth it? This question uncannily props up
when an increment, promotion or bonus has not gone your way – or if what you
believed was yours went to someone else.
You love your spouse but marriage is hard work. He takes
care of you but not in all the ways you want him to. He can be insensitive, naive
and aloof. He can also be thoughtful, considerate and caring in ways you never
thought of. Makes you wonder if the package of ups and downs is worth it.
The new job offer you got is great, if only they gave you
that little bit more. That higher designation, that higher increment – are all
the changes worth it?
Ever wondered how come we never assess if dealing with our
family, siblings and friends is worth it? Why exiting from a family business
and what’s your “own” is rarely a question that crops up. Those relations also
have ups and downs – but why don’t we consider turning those down. Those are always worth it aren’t they?
Then is it that we assess the worth of things we believe we
have options for? Are we starting to give ourselves options for too many
things? Maybe anchoring down, taking what comes our way and making the most of
it is a better way to be at peace. I'm not saying don’t seek more, but creating
choices in situations where there is no need for assessment is a mighty big
waste of time. Perhaps taking a deep breath, rubbing your hands for energy and
just getting up and dealing with what’s on the plate is what automatically
makes things “worth it”. Worth after all is relative – just like beauty. You
have to assess the whole package in the context of your whole life.
Hum of the Day
I read somewhere that
ours is a generation that has too many choices. Not only do I agree, but I now
feel that we assess and reassess when there are no real choices. Something is
a choice when you can say no or if something else belongs to you. In all other
situations, it’s not a choice and therefore not worth assessing. Accepting is a
word we all need to slowly learn. And have faith in ourselves that when the
time to really say no comes, we will know and there will be no assessment.
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