The other day someone sent me this link of this brilliant youtube video of a stand-up artist who very eloquently describes the differences between the male and female brain. According to him, the brain of a man is clearly compartmentalized into little drawers – one for the office, one for the wife, one for kid 1, one for kid 2, one for mother-in-law, etc. This, also allows for a brilliant space called the “nothing box” where, well, men think of nothing or rather don’t think. This is unfathomable to a woman according to him. Because, women, have a mesh of wires as against neat compartments where nothing touches. In a woman’s mind, everything is related to everything. And as per me, his analysis is bang on.
So here is my typical thought process – ill get fit if I have time, but to have time I need to quit work, but when I quit work I get bored, when I get bored I get depressed, when I get depressed, I eat – or fight with my poor bewildered husband, so maybe I should try and get fit when I am working? But then how will I find time – welcome back to square 1! Or, we need to stop fighting about petty stuff, it’s the fact that I am bored and depressed where I am, the solution is to move out of here. But there is no way out immediately available, so I need to be patient and make use of the time effectively so that my energy is channelized productively, what can I do? Oh, get fit - welcome back to square 1.
Yes, I am more than a little mad I think. But then again, it becomes a situation of which thread to work on first, what causes the situation. But how do you tackle it when you don’t know what’s caused it to begin with. It’s a multitude of things, all connected and a single incorrect move, sets it all on fire resulting in a mental short circuit!
Which brings me to my question – what comes first, chicken or egg? Should I wait for someone else’s life to guide mine or take mine in control, but eventually I will have to factor in someone else’s life. It’s all too complicated at times and perhaps, we all need a nothing box to just go into, breathe, and come out of. To be able to realize that sometimes, being random with deliberation IS the only key – in other words, pick one thread, work on it. Does not matter which because if everything is connection, somehow, one thread can sort it all! Hopefully!
We (men and women) spend a lot of time often deliberating the what-ifs and tossing around the if-only hat. Maybe, if we just moved – with or without a plan – just did what needed to be done at that given point, and left it up to time to take care of other things, maybe, one wire at a time, we could ensure that the loop that leads to a short-circuit is broken somewhere.
Hum of the day
We are all connected to others in our lives. Our thoughts and various aspects of life are connected. However, sometimes, you need to break the loop internally, to ensure that all the connections are safe.
